SPEER’S EDGE: PATH MINDSET

I decided to share my “Path Mindset”. The “Path Mindset” is partially based on Abraham Maslow’s (1954) theory on Self-Actualization. Maslow studies were conducted about the most successful people in the world from past to present and his theory is still widely used by many successful people today. Here is my adaptation aptly named “Path Mindset”:

1. BE WILLING TO CHANGE – Begin with asking yourself “Am I living in a way that is deeply satisfying to me and which truly expresses me?” If not, be prepared to make changes in your life to match your identity. Ask yourself this question often and accept the need for continual change because as we progress through life we grow and change naturally. It is up to you the direction you wish to head.

2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY – You can become an architect of yourself by acting as if you are personally responsible for every aspect of your life. Shouldering responsibility in this way helps end the habit of blaming others for your own shortcomings. This is not an easy thing to do but it will help you be more fulfilled for your successes.

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Matters in Dating- Brother James

A note from Mind Team Leader, Lauree Ostrofsky: Our goal with DC Fit Week is to help you see your mental, physical and financial fitness as integral to all aspects of your life. How you approach dating and relationships is part of that.

Some of the advice I give in my seminars and personal coaching as a professional dating coach is quite simple.  I try to break it down to the basics.  Why know all of the fluff, when you need to understand the principals?

The funny thing is most people want the fluff.  They want the quick fix:  “What do I say?” “How to I approach someone?”

The fluff quickly floats away and you are back to square one.  Do the hard stuff.

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How to Create the Abundance Mindset

Note: This is a guest post from Steve of Freedom Education.  An article that I believe has an excellent message.

Give away what you got.

It’s not that complicated, really.

But let’s think for a minute; what do a great number of people do instead?

When someone has a great idea, they hoard that idea.  They don’t give it away.  They shelter and protect it.  They keep it to themselves in fear that someone else might take it.  They think, “I better save that idea for later.”  They don’t share their ideas or give them away – they keep them.

Well, let’s think – why would you do that?

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Approach Anxiety Cure: How To Approach A Girl Without Fear of Rejection- Sasha

This article is going to teach you how to approach a girl without fear of rejection or failure. Soon, you’ll have the tools you need to overcome Approach Anxiety forever. You’ll finally be ready to start attracting beautiful women into your life each and every day.

Unfortunately, when most guys get started attracting women, they discover that they first need to cure approach anxiety. They see a beautiful woman and instantly feel a crippling fear that feels nearly impossible to overcome.

For some, this fear becomes too much and their approach anxiety beats them for good. Others will challenge themselves and approach women after women for weeks or months on end, hoping that it will eliminate Approach Anxiety forever.

But as many of those guys will tell you, even after approaching 100s of girls THE APPROACH ANXIETY IS STILL THERE!

So if simply approaching tons of women isn’t enough to cure approach anxiety, what is?

After overcoming my own fear of approaching women, and helping hundreds of men across the globe do the same, I’ve been fortunate to discover what really works to overcome approach anxiety forever.

One of the biggest reasons most guys continue to get approach anxiety after making numerous approaches is that they only approach women at specific times.

Most guys who want to get good with women will go out at specified times and approach beautiful women. During those times they’ll try to pick up girls with varying degrees of success, but the rest of the time they’ll go about life as if women didn’t even exist!

As soon as their life gets busy, they feel like they don’t have time to approach and they take a break. Once they are ready to start approaching again, they’re devastated to learn that their approach anxiety is back!

There is a HUGE problem with that mindset!
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How To Take Advice

If you haven’t noticed, there is a ton of contradictory advice floating around the internet and pick-up forums. Aspiring PUAs have to know what advice to take and what not to take. One of the things that separates the guys that get good from the guys that never get good is the way they take advice. In fact, I believe the level of a person’s development can be gauged directly by how they take advice. Taking and using advice is more like an art than a science.

The wrong way to take advice

Many people – and we’re talking about PUAs here – do this when they take advice. They read a new article about how to do something – a new technique, opener, etc. Then they get really excited about it and run to the mall or bar to try it out. Then guess what? It doesn’t work. They get discouraged and give up on that tactic, and wait until a better one comes along. They keep looking for the one trick or system that will get them to the next level. It is a never ending futile quest.

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