One of the biggest problems I have heard guys mention is that a woman seems interested, but then the conversation dies out. There can be many reasons for this. However, the solution is to learn how to lead and direct a dynamic, interesting conversation. To develop an interaction with a woman in a romantic way, you need to capture and lead her emotions while engaging her in a challenging way. This is where it helps to have prepared stories and routines. They help get past the awkward spots and establish some basic rapport. Having an idea of what you can say also helps you relax and pay more attention to her.

1) Ask thought provoking questions

If you don’t want to rely on physical props, find ways to ask thought provoking questions that get her talking in depth about what is really important to her. For example, if you ask a woman what she does for a living, and she says that she is a teacher, the conversational topic doesn’t have to stop there. You can add some depth by asking a question like, “so what is it about teaching that you find most interesting/ fascinating/ compelling”. This will get her her thinking about and sharing deeper, more meaningful aspects of who she is as a person. You can then continue to build rapport by actively listening and contributing your own stories.

2) Lead by sharing stories about yourself that she can relate to

Instead of just asking questions, lead with your own stories or respond to her stories by reciprocating the same kind of communication back to her.
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