Never be robotic. Always be strategic. Like a good football coach, constantly think several plays ahead. That starts with preparation for the date itself. Have a game plan in mind w/your transition points and minimal escalation targets outlined. Of course, you’ve set favorable logistics, meeting at your place, her place or close by. From there, realize in advance that you need to get her from point A to points B, C, D and E.

It’s hard to lead if you don’t know where you’re going. Yes, it’s very important to be micro-focused and in the moment, but always be aware of the big picture before the night slips away. So if you need to move her from the venue to your place, seed the ASD in advance. And if at all possible, have her meet at your place first with minimal kino and drinks to establish comfort/familiarity, making it far easier to pull her later in the evening. If already at your place, know how you’re going to fractionate and escalate. Perhaps you’ll start off by exciting her w/a game of pool. Kino escalate w/some dancing. Then cuddle together w/a movie, under a blanket, and maybe on the floor or bed. From there, it’s usually very “on”. Add a sensual massage, if needed. Figure out your best closing move and build toward it during the course of the evening. BUT constantly calibrate and always be ready to change direction on the fly.
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