It’s hard to lead if you don’t know where you’re going. Yes, it’s very important to be micro-focused and in the moment, but always be aware of the big picture before the night slips away. So if you need to move her from the venue to your place, seed the ASD in advance. And if at all possible, have her meet at your place first with minimal kino and drinks to establish comfort/familiarity, making it far easier to pull her later in the evening. If already at your place, know how you’re going to fractionate and escalate. Perhaps you’ll start off by exciting her w/a game of pool. Kino escalate w/some dancing. Then cuddle together w/a movie, under a blanket, and maybe on the floor or bed. From there, it’s usually very “on”. Add a sensual massage, if needed. Figure out your best closing move and build toward it during the course of the evening. BUT constantly calibrate and always be ready to change direction on the fly.

Hopefully you’re working multiple targets, so get a monthly calendar and start slotting them in. Momentum is critical, and you should try keeping each girl in play every 3-4 days. Some take longer to warm up than others. So understand that one strategy doesn’t fit all. And customize accordingly. Put it all in pencil with plans B and C at the ready in case of flakeage. If a google calendar or something similar works better for you, then use that instead. But make this a daily tool in your PUA kit. Although I’m guilty of not following up as often as I should, you can add reminders for which targets need prodding and when. That will help keep any from falling through the cracks while preventing you from pinging them more often than you’ve realized.

Again, calibrate your approach by target. Some chicks are SNL material. Others take more time. And sometimes you’ll misread them altogether. So flexibility is crucial. For the most part, anticipate in advance how many steps (i.e. dates or meetings) it’s going to take for the f-close, specific to each woman. I’ve never given much weight to the whole “7 hrs. rule”. Some need more and others need much less. Making an analogy to golf, a hole in one is rare. So you drive for the green and anything else is a bonus. Having achievable expectations and goals leads to much less frustration.

Most important of all, just enjoy your time together since that’s the entire point to all of this. But know in advance that one chick may be closeable with three steps, another one could take four and perhaps as many as five or six for another. Always be mindful of your time, and if a particular woman doesn’t seem like a worthwhile return on investment, know when to cut and run. Based on this kind of analysis, you can set the types of dates accordingly, realizing that a lot more comfort may be needed prior to the pull with one target vs. another. Accelerate as necessary, based on real-time feedback, but start with a plan. For some, dinner and a movie at your place or hers can be done on the D1 or D2. In other cases, you should save it for later, bringing her along more slowly.

Likewise, know your escalation goals ahead of time. With some, an SNL is realistically attainable a lot earlier than with others. So tie-in what you hope to achieve escalation-wise with your selection of venue and activity. Don’t forget these are minimal goals, so if it’s moving faster than expected, just calibrate and go. And when you do close her, be unselfish, take your time and make it memorable. That’s a whole different topic for a whole different post, but give her multiples, make her addicted to you, and she will stick around.

-KidMidas