Matters in Dating- Brother James

A note from Mind Team Leader, Lauree Ostrofsky: Our goal with DC Fit Week is to help you see your mental, physical and financial fitness as integral to all aspects of your life. How you approach dating and relationships is part of that.

Some of the advice I give in my seminars and personal coaching as a professional dating coach is quite simple.  I try to break it down to the basics.  Why know all of the fluff, when you need to understand the principals?

The funny thing is most people want the fluff.  They want the quick fix:  “What do I say?” “How to I approach someone?”

The fluff quickly floats away and you are back to square one.  Do the hard stuff.

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Become That Guy: 5 Quick Tips On Being Irresistibly Attractive

Some questions I am often asked are how can I be irresistibly attractive to women? What are the characteristics that make a man attractive, how can I have peace of mind and feel a sense of power and accomplishment?

These is a broad question upon which I have written a book “Become That Guy: Become Irresistibly Attractive” and many others have written books, given seminars and contributed to the constantly growing “Pickup Artist” movement. However here are a couple broad concepts from my perspective.

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From The Desk of CrazyMike- Your Friendly Cheerful Administrator

The last couple months have involved some fantastic events and guest speakers who have come to DC in order to present directly for you. We have met a number of new members recently who have come out to take part in our talks and outings, many quality friendships have been forged. We urge you all to continue coming out to our community events and post a quick introduction of yourself on the Attraction Vault Forums, if you haven’t already done so. The greatest aspect to our community and what separates us from many is that we are first and foremost a community of men and women who actually meet in person. Our community is far more than what you see online. We believe that through forming a community with open and honest discussions about self-improvement, we can work in support of our members defining, creating, and living their own improved social lifestyle that enables overarching success in life. In addition this brings great value to you as members because it enables people to individually and collectively work towards forming a better life with the personal connections formed within as well as directly as a result of the events held by our Officers and Field Leaders.

Think Big Picture

Learning the social arts exposes one to a seemingly endless barrage of concepts, techniques and paradigms.  There’s endless discussion on opening, building attraction, comfort, and seduction.  There’s openers, stacks, negs, push-pull, cocky/funny, pebbles, projections, kino, NLP, microloops, IOIs, IODs, shit tests, social proof, alpha behavior, bitch shields and LMR.  It’s easy to get lost in this and forget what all of this stuff is ultimately designed to do.  It’s easy to forget, in the simplest terms, what we’re learning to do: [Read more...]

Welcome to the Leading East Coast Dating and Social Life Mastery Community

We are the largest and most active Dating & Men’s self development forum in the Washington, DC and Baltimore metropolitan area and one of the largest in the world with over 1,600 members. We are dedicated to improving the lives of persons who are looking to enhance their dating lives and master their social skills. We have recently expanded to include a rapidly growing community in Miami, FL as well.

Many of our members found us after reading books like “The Game” by Neil Strauss, a story of a writer who became a rising star and “pickup artist.” The Game documents Neil Strauss’ experience in the seductive and mysterious world of the pickup artist (“PUA”) community. Other members searched for a local “lair” or “forum” where they could find wingmen to go out with and improve their dating and social lives and found us.   However, the Attraction Vault is about more than just “picking up” women.  The Attraction Vault is a community established to help individuals grow as people. 

Who We Are

We are an all volunteer group of primarily men, and some helpful, supportive women mostly in Washington, DC, Baltimore and Miami metropolitan areas who work together to help one another improve our dating and social lives. Members of the Attraction Vault range from working professionals with extensive experience in dating, to young men with little experience in dating and socializing with women. Members also include divorced men in their 30s and 40s that just want to get back into the dating game and single men who are already happy with their dating life, but are seeking constant improvement in their relationships. 

What We Do

Members provide advice and support to each other through a private online discussion forum. The forum posts focus on topics that help individuals develop the dating and social skills required to initiate, enhance and manage relationships. We also facilitate events where men meet in person and collaborate to socialize and meet other wingmen and wingwomen,  go out during the day and get involved in events where they can initiate conversations and establish relationships with women, and/or go out and enjoy the socialthe nightlife in Washington, DC and Miami.

We also host educational events in Washington, DC,  Baltimore and Miami. We host these events through coordinating with local Dating Coaches and Nationally known Speakers.  Our list of speakers has included Brad P, DJ Fuji, Nick Quick, Vince Kelvin, Psych, Adam Lyons, Badboy, James Marshall, Speer, QuickKill, Brother James, Cuisine and many more. In addition, we have a forum where members review pickup artist products and dating services.

Join Us!

Wherever you are at in your life with women, there is a place for you here. Sign up for free to join the Attraction Vault and participate in our daily discussions and forums.