Wonder why you are getting the same results week after week?
I was thinking to myself today regarding what really needs to happen for someone to get good at dating. What do you think it is?
When you go out and get the same results is it your fault or theirs?
Take, for example, my friend ‘Mary,’ she goes out all of the time and complains that no one approaches her. She can’t understand why. Given Mary is a rather attractive woman and has a lot going for her. Guys should be falling over her, but they are not.
I’ve gone out with her, and know exactly why she doesn’t get approached. She’ll go sit down in the farthest corner in a booth where no one can see her. When she walks around, her head is down, arms are crossed and gives off the vibe that she can’t be dealt with.
What guy is going to approach her? Her body language shows ‘I’m closed off.’ She hides in the corner of the bar. She goes to the same locations and never changes.
Too many guys do this too.
These bad habits are limiting their success.
If something isn’t working, change it!
STOP doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result!
First, address what are your habits: notice where you go, where you stand/sit in a location, what does your body language show, are you smiling, do you give opportunities to approach/be approached?
Now, that you have a list of what you do and how you go about meeting people, Start Changing it!
If you go to the same bar, club, grocery store, book store, etc., change it to another location. Go to a museum. Join a soccer team. Just stop doing the same thing!
Instead of standing in the corner of the room, stand in the middle. There’s more traffic and people can get to you with ease.
If you want to get good at dating, you’re going to have to focus on dating. Take inventory of what you do and how you do it. Start making changes.
Give complements to complete strangers! Just go out and do it!
One of the quickest and most effective way to do this is have a dating coach that can help you through your metamorphosis. They should easily be able to see your patterns and show you what you’re doing wrong. A well trained coach can remove months of frustration and boost you to the next level of dating.
Nothing happens without action. This is worth saying twice. Nothing happens without action.
Go out and make it happen. Start changing and start your journey.
~Brother James
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