Be Bold. Take Action.

Recently, I’ve been spending time thinking and speaking about taking action.  As a consultant, my day job requires that I guide clients into take bold, decisive action with their businesses.  If you are a small business, your number one focus with marketing is to get noticed and most of the time that means taking bold moves that may be uncomfortable.  At night, I guide my clients at Professional Pickup and help those that I can at The Attraction Vault forums to take decisive action, and get noticed. 

The principles are all the same. 

We live in a world full of choices.   Too many choices and never enough time to scrutinize them all.  Our choices, whether this product or that service, this friend or another, this mate or that one, we all are searching or hoping to make the right choice at the right time. 

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Develop an Unstoppable, Powerful Frame of Mind

One question I have been asked is how do I create the frame of mind that makes meeting and rapidly sexually escalating with women something that just comes naturally?  Here are a few key points about the kinds of beliefs and understandings that once internalized will provide you with the frame of mind to support your behavior so that it comes naturally and intuitively in the moment.

 You are valuable, worthy and desirable

 A key first step to having empowering interactions with women is building the right states of mind and beliefs about yourself.  The core underlying belief must be this: you are desirable and women want to be with you.  This does not mean you are better than the woman you desire by comparison. This does not mean that you there is not room for you to continue to grow and develop as a person to become your best self. Nor does it mean that you shouldn’t admit when you are in the wrong.  Nor does it mean you are entitled.  It is about confidence and certainty in your value as a person. This belief sets you up to become a happy, confident person.

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Be Yourself – Part II

As I promised last month, now I want to go from the process of meet to close comparing the natural who knows how to express himself and be himself versus the chode.

Opening

The natural sees a beautiful woman. He wants to talk to her and feels that attraction. Because this is what he desires to do, he does it. It is being himself. It is a form of expression.

The chode sees her and immediately approach anxiety hits. He is not being himself. He wants to talk to her but his limiting beliefs and society have programmed him to not talk to her. He is society’s robot and will not talk to her.

Mid Game

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Exuding Presence

“I used to say of him (Napoleon) that his presence on the field made the difference of 40,000 men.”
- Arthur Wellesley, 1st Duke of Wellington

Have you ever been in a spot and something about a certain person in the room drew you in and completely captivated you? Was it the level of that person’s personal engagement in the scenario and conversations around them, or perhaps the way they articulated themselves that screamed out to you?

So, what is presence?

Researchers on this topic have found that certain people have been found to project out certain qualities to their audience. Some of these qualities have included candor, clarity, openness, passion, poise, self-confidence, and warmth.

But, what do these words mean? And how can we use them to become that person who exudes presence?

To simplify this process, we can break these words down even further and place them into buckets that will be easier to manage.

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Can a “Relationship” Start with Sex

Real love is the love that sometimes arises after sensual pleasure: if it does, it is immortal; the other kind inevitably goes stale, for it lies in mere fantasy – Giacomo Casanova

Yes, it can. Although if you were to ask most men and women if this is possible they would say no. However I have asked many married couples how their relationships started and in a moment of candor (and the guise of doing research for this book) many of them did say it turned sexual either the first night or within the first few times they saw each other. Here are a few insights from some of my experiences where sex on the first night ended up turning into a relationship that lasted 6 months or longer. My experience seems to be someone rare in that ALL of my longer term relationships over a span of 12 years started with sex on the first night. How is this possible? [Read more...]

Be Yourself – Part I

Be Yourself – the oldest cliché in regards to success with women. You ask anyone who is non-community for advice and the most common response you will receive is:  just be yourself.

I have come a long way. And in the beginning after reading The Game I thought this is nonsense. I need to create this new persona. Forget being yourself.

Wrong. Completely wrong. Instead of creating a new you, you need to destroy and shatter the limiting beliefs that have prevented you from being yourself all of your life.

The problem is that a chode is not himself. He really is not. It is harder to be yourself than most people think. Being yourself does not mean doing the same things that you are doing when you are a chode. Heck no! That is why you are not getting the girl. Think about it, the chode is always in his head, attempts to impress girls, and is terrified to lead. These things are not himself.

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If It’s Going Good… Keep Going!

One mistake I have seen many men make as they become more confident in their ability to attract women is that they get in the way of their own possible success. They appear to have a strong interaction going with a woman, but then they end the conversation prematurely by getting a phone number and then excusing themselves. I’m not referring to logistics getting in the way, i.e. she’s leaving to go somewhere else with her friends or you are leaving, this is where a guy and the woman he is talking to are staying in the same venue. There are many reasons that a guy would do this. However here are a few scenarios that drive me absolutely crazy: [Read more...]

Aligning Your True Self With Your Real Desire

The laws of attraction are one of the most powerful tools out there that can be used to bring you that which you truly desire.

What are these laws?

In a simplistic form – whatever you think of, and feel, you communicate to the world, and attract more of it, back into your life.

When I first started meeting some of the people on this forum and in this community, I noticed a considerable difference in results between some guys and others. It wasn’t necessarily their look, or their style, or the words they used. But rather, it was the image that they conveyed and were projecting outwards to the world.

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Give Her A Look

You can’t touch it, you can’t see it, you can’t smell it, but you can definitely feel it when “it’s on”. It’s not the notes themselves, but the spaces between the notes of a song that can make or break a performance at the Kennedy Center. That’s tension. That’s what’s already naturally there between men and women.

A lot of guys I know, in their attempts to be a more dominant, more alpha-male, more cocky funny, or more whatever, fail to recognize that most of the time, less IS more. You don’t have to talk as much as you think you do. You don’t have to be as domineering as you think, as long as you can become a master of tension.

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