A large part of success with women is a firm belief that you can and will get what you want. I’ve been asked by guys, how do I get that strong frame of mind where I just know and expect that a woman’s going to be attracted to me and wants to have sex with me? If you have had positive experiences with women, then it would be easy to say that your present success is built upon your past success. How do I get those successes so I can then be confident.

It is true, but not necessarily true that confidence comes from past experience. Past experiences provide evidence and imagery to guide your mind, but they are not necessary per se. Almost everyone who is now very successful at something was once not successful. In fact many of these people who are successful keep trying new things and often hit set backs along the way.

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Never be robotic. Always be strategic. Like a good football coach, constantly think several plays ahead. That starts with preparation for the date itself. Have a game plan in mind w/your transition points and minimal escalation targets outlined. Of course, you’ve set favorable logistics, meeting at your place, her place or close by. From there, realize in advance that you need to get her from point A to points B, C, D and E.

It’s hard to lead if you don’t know where you’re going. Yes, it’s very important to be micro-focused and in the moment, but always be aware of the big picture before the night slips away. So if you need to move her from the venue to your place, seed the ASD in advance. And if at all possible, have her meet at your place first with minimal kino and drinks to establish comfort/familiarity, making it far easier to pull her later in the evening. If already at your place, know how you’re going to fractionate and escalate. Perhaps you’ll start off by exciting her w/a game of pool. Kino escalate w/some dancing. Then cuddle together w/a movie, under a blanket, and maybe on the floor or bed. From there, it’s usually very “on”. Add a sensual massage, if needed. Figure out your best closing move and build toward it during the course of the evening. BUT constantly calibrate and always be ready to change direction on the fly.
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