One thing I have run across over the years as webmaster and moderator for Attraction Vault is that many guys use the notion that they have “standards” as an excuse to hide their fears. This isn’t to say that you should settle and be with someone who you are not attracted to. However I have noticed that sometimes the same guys who say they have “standards” aren’t even talking to any women at all. This reminds me of a great quote by Timothy Ferris, author of the Four Hour Work Week.
“There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, ‘Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything,’ and an optimist who says, ‘Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.’ Either way, nothing happens.”
With this quote in mind here are some important points that are useful to keep in mind as you discover how to successfully develop more power and choice with women.
Recently, I’ve been spending time thinking and speaking about taking action. As a consultant, my day job requires that I guide clients into take bold, decisive action with their businesses. If you are a small business, your number one focus with marketing is to get noticed and most of the time that means taking bold moves that may be uncomfortable. At night, I guide my clients at Professional Pickup and help those that I can at The Attraction Vault forums to take decisive action, and get noticed.
The principles are all the same.
We live in a world full of choices. Too many choices and never enough time to scrutinize them all. Our choices, whether this product or that service, this friend or another, this mate or that one, we all are searching or hoping to make the right choice at the right time.
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One question I have been asked is how do I create the frame of mind that makes meeting and rapidly sexually escalating with women something that just comes naturally? Here are a few key points about the kinds of beliefs and understandings that once internalized will provide you with the frame of mind to support your behavior so that it comes naturally and intuitively in the moment.
You are valuable, worthy and desirable
A key first step to having empowering interactions with women is building the right states of mind and beliefs about yourself. The core underlying belief must be this: you are desirable and women want to be with you. This does not mean you are better than the woman you desire by comparison. This does not mean that you there is not room for you to continue to grow and develop as a person to become your best self. Nor does it mean that you shouldn’t admit when you are in the wrong. Nor does it mean you are entitled. It is about confidence and certainty in your value as a person. This belief sets you up to become a happy, confident person.
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