Be Yourself – the oldest cliché in regards to success with women. You ask anyone who is non-community for advice and the most common response you will receive is:  just be yourself.

I have come a long way. And in the beginning after reading The Game I thought this is nonsense. I need to create this new persona. Forget being yourself.

Wrong. Completely wrong. Instead of creating a new you, you need to destroy and shatter the limiting beliefs that have prevented you from being yourself all of your life.

The problem is that a chode is not himself. He really is not. It is harder to be yourself than most people think. Being yourself does not mean doing the same things that you are doing when you are a chode. Heck no! That is why you are not getting the girl. Think about it, the chode is always in his head, attempts to impress girls, and is terrified to lead. These things are not himself.

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One mistake I have seen many men make as they become more confident in their ability to attract women is that they get in the way of their own possible success. They appear to have a strong interaction going with a woman, but then they end the conversation prematurely by getting a phone number and then excusing themselves. I’m not referring to logistics getting in the way, i.e. she’s leaving to go somewhere else with her friends or you are leaving, this is where a guy and the woman he is talking to are staying in the same venue. There are many reasons that a guy would do this. However here are a few scenarios that drive me absolutely crazy: More»

The laws of attraction are one of the most powerful tools out there that can be used to bring you that which you truly desire.

What are these laws?

In a simplistic form – whatever you think of, and feel, you communicate to the world, and attract more of it, back into your life.

When I first started meeting some of the people on this forum and in this community, I noticed a considerable difference in results between some guys and others. It wasn’t necessarily their look, or their style, or the words they used. But rather, it was the image that they conveyed and were projecting outwards to the world.

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You can’t touch it, you can’t see it, you can’t smell it, but you can definitely feel it when “it’s on”. It’s not the notes themselves, but the spaces between the notes of a song that can make or break a performance at the Kennedy Center. That’s tension. That’s what’s already naturally there between men and women.

A lot of guys I know, in their attempts to be a more dominant, more alpha-male, more cocky funny, or more whatever, fail to recognize that most of the time, less IS more. You don’t have to talk as much as you think you do. You don’t have to be as domineering as you think, as long as you can become a master of tension.

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